mattaeus This member uses the web version of DateTheUK 11.08.2009, 14:23

Have you read some of the stuff on here....I mean read it and then think, would I want to go out on a date with that miserable bugger, trying to prove Im the one that can make them happy....I would rather get a job plate spinning.... at least it would be entertaining.....cheer up its about what you have not what you think you need. laugh a bit everyday, more if you can, come on peeps!...always look on the bright side of life da de da de da de da de da!

summersmile This member uses the web version of DateTheUK 05.07.2009, 19:16

I too am over forty and find that there's such a great difference in meeting a new man - sometimes I feel I'm getting somewhere and -POW!! a leggy blonde takes his eye and I don't hear from him again..........of course, that goes both ways, rather like the busses - nothing for ages then several turn up at once - what to do then?
The fact that we usually have our own homes and locations which we don't want to leave, makes "coupling up" much more difficult. Hey ho, fiddle-de-dee, must soldier on, looking for the right man in the right area with the right interests etc..............??????

Jimtheone4U This member uses the web version of DateTheUK 06.04.2009, 11:16

If you think that trying a date to see if 'he is the one' or that 'look for that spark of attraction' at the first meeting then you will be sadly disappointed unless he is Brad Pitt or George Clooney. Real life is not like that. Even if he was you will need several meetings to establish it. All women need to get a reality check!

lisahappy Blog This member uses the web version of DateTheUK 13.01.2009, 15:29

Jonny, I love your optimism could you share some with me?

lisahappy Blog This member uses the web version of DateTheUK 13.01.2009, 15:28

good friends is always a nice alternative, Bouncy... that's quite a comfortable thinking 'he doesn't exist' ..the more you think so, the bigger your surprise will be when you meet up

Bouncy1961 Blog This member uses the web version of DateTheUK 24.12.2008, 14:37

I think they should teach children about relationships & communicating with people at school, cos a lot of men, (sorry boys), havent a scooby about women and what to do with them, when they get one.

Ive given up looking for 'the one'-he doesnt exist. However, if i find a nice normal honest guy, who has a good sense of humour & wants to be friends, then thats good enough for me.

Best of luck in your search people.

JuicyJonny Blog This member uses the web version of DateTheUK 16.12.2008, 22:56

This is a question i have been also asking myself so your not the only one. I'm 44, I found dating girls the first time round a challenge, I cant really be asked to push myself around again. I'm greying at the edges and spreading round the middle, my bum is not the pert botty it once was! I dont feel that good about myself and think that I wont be attractive so why bother.

We have to change that!! Thats your down side talking you out of making an effort. I think there is plenty of room for new people in your life and its definately worth pushing for. I think that we might need to go about it slightly differently than when we were teens with hormones rushing through our veins.

Companionship and love can be found in many ways. Just chatting on here makes me feel I might still be of some use! I'm going to start joining different clubs, evening classes, etc. try and meet people and just get talking, make some new friends. Some day I will meet another person who makes me feel good. Maybe that will make me complete again.

In the mean time I am seeing my new freedom as a chance to do different things and they might lead me to meeting someone.