Making It Happen

Is it so wrong to plan and try to shape your life as best as you can, without just accepting fate and being happy to 'go with the flow' and see what transpires?

I'm just 24, but I have an upward career within the legal world which has taken a lot of hard work and effort to attain. I haven't sacrificed my life to get here, and I've enjoyed myself along the way, though I've had bad experiences, too. I've always been disciplined enough to keep focussed on my overall objectives, which are to have my own or a joint legal practice by the time I'm 30ish and then start thinking about having kids around that time too.

Thing is, I'm constantly being told by people that I shouldn't be so regimented and industrious and that I could be missing out on happiness by even having objectives in the first place! Most people offer their opinions in good faith, but base their advice on their own personal experiences of falling in love in their 20s and / or having kids at an early age. But are these views shaped by the fact that they have now lost the opportunity to build a career anyway? I'm not saying these 'well-wishers' lead unhappy lives, but isn't it possible to have an equally happy - or maybe even more rewarding - life by planning the future to serve your own aspirations?

Jul. 30, 2010 (13:54)

Comments for Making It Happen

old-fart Blog This member uses the web version of DateTheUK 22.08.2010, 21:53

its good to have objectives set but if love happens along the way that does not mean your plans have to change in any shape or firm

70slegend This member uses the web version of DateTheUK 04.08.2010, 15:12

Such wisdom in one so young.

I have known more people that regret impetuosity and the mistakes of youth than those that took a more measured pace in life.

I think you are doing the sensible thing by carefully building a future for yourself. You have all the time in the world